Tips to make a successful relationship

What are your "tips to make a successful relationship?" - I was once asked by a Coaching client many years ago. At the time I thought it was a tough question to answer and I have thought about this several times since.

At first, I thought it was all about shared interests, then communication and connection, then shared values like respect, honesty, ethics, self development... well it is all of this I think. (And then what does "successful" mean?! - I think that is a topic for another day!))…but I can see that alot of these things are external factors and what I have deeply come to understand is that I can only control myself - maybe I can't even control that if you believe in fate!What I realise most at this point in my life: is that I am the common denominator, (even though aptly pointed out by my Hubby many times, over many years!) that I am the key ingredient in any successful relationship I have.And that means I must learn about myself, have a willingness to reflect upon my thoughts, words and actions each day and decide to make the right choices. This makes me a better Coach as well!

In my early twenties, I was talking to my co-worker: a strong and confident man in his late forties, with an element of gentleness as well, and as we talked about relationships he said that he had "never had a fight with his wife". This was an unbelievable statement to me, impossible and unimaginable! I had to assume that out of the two of them - that either he or his wife were the weaker than the other and "gave in", or that they couldn't express themself!

Over the years when faced with difficulties in my relationships, I reflected back on his words, still baffled for many years by his astounding statement, none the less I tried to understand it and see a different way for myself.

I have stepped closer to seeing this different path for myself. My tips to make a more successful relationship:

1. Practice acceptance, love, forgiveness and connection, daily.

2. Understand yourself to understand others.

3. Know that tomorrow is a new day and that you have an opportunity to make better choices than today.

For more learnings see my CARE and Understanding your Personality and Making good choices articles.Wholistic Coaching with me encourages us to dive a little deeper into this all, are you ready to dive together?gabrielle@bebliss.com.au or call me: +61 (0) 418-576-075